If you´re out in the rain, you´re bound to get wet. If you really want to be with someone, you have to use all possible weapons. You´re in a place full of people, you turn your radar on and notice there´s someone there you could really be into. What to do? First step is making them notice you´re interested. But it should be done in a subtle way, never being invasive. In dating, eye contact is fundamental. And you can do that with dare, class and efficiency. Pay attention not to stare too hard. Look, but always her time to look at you too. Don´t pressure the other with your look. Make the first look fast and amicable. If it´s hard to catch her eyes, try to look at her face, her hair. Get closer to the eyes little by little. If your eyes cross once, try a second time and if you´re successful itmeans you´re closer to your goal. Don´t forget your gaze is giving her an information: it can be naughty, sexual, amicable, passionate, aggressive, etc. be careful, then, pay attention. But after exchanging looks, it´s time for you to make a move. Some people stay too long at that, just looking, looking. That´s not good. You might lose the timing. The ideal thing is to change. Time for the surprise element. At this point, when the mutual interest in getting to know each other can´t be hidden anymore, the situation can be sort of funny. So, smiling can be nice, spontaneous. You can also say hello with a head nod. Those are forms of breaking the ice. Others prefer the gesture of offering a drink. Each one should find his own way to approach. Once your looks have been corresponded, you smile has been well accepted, approaching is not so risky. That´s the crucial difference between a successful approach and a common pick up line. By carefully perceiving the other, you lower your chances to be turned down. What I propose to you is getting closer little by little, minimizing the chances of rejection, building up your confidence. A bit of dare is also essential. You get close and say something the other was not expecting. You surprise her with your imprevisibility. You can do that with an intelligent line, friendly or humorous. It depends on yourstyle. 15/08/2007 Sergio Savian www.sergiosavian.com.br contato@sergiosavian.com.br