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Insecurity is the main reason for a man not finishing the job while having sex. What we should take into consideration, though, is the possibility of stressful situations, lack of interest in the woman he´s with, high expectations or even physiological problems - all of which can contribute to a lousy time in bed.

Our potential is strongly related to the way things happen in our professional lives. Meaning: when things at work are okay, when the man is successful and earns a salary he considers to be good, he is probably in heaven during sex. The opposite also happens, though. When things are bad at work, he´ll probably have problems related to his sexual routine – and these problems aren´t necessarily caused by sex or the partner.

Women can and should cooperate when there´s a malfunction in bed. There´s a list of things they should never do, for it wouldn´t help ourselves a bit. Ladies should never criticize, never compare us to other men, nor put us down and, please ladies, never ever assume a maternal posture. After all, things become even stranger when we see you as our mother.

Low self-esteem among males is more common than most people imagine. Men are often under pressure for a lot of things – and sex life is part of the list. Besides, if your partner doesn´t help, changes are the relationship will be over before it even started. That is why smart gals know what to do, how to do it and when to do it to turn their man on.

On the other hand, there are some women who are too passive during sex. That means they expect us to do everything, which doesn´t always work well. We should consider there are some men who actually enjoy that kind of behavior, but most of us are turned on by those who let their hair down during sex, surprising us.

High expectation is something which can also cause some trouble in bed. You finally got the number of the hottie from the bar, you took her for dinner, you met her for a second time and maybe a third. When you finally convince her to go to your place, chances are you´re feeling a bit nervous and things might not happen as you imagined. Calm down! That´s common and perfectly natural. If that happens and you feel insecure thinking she´s too much for you, try to find a flaw in her – which should help balancing the moment.

Don´t be paranoid about it and relax. You´ll soon realize relaxation is all you need for a happier sex life.