Flirting is a Dance

Its a question of knowing how to synchronize the rhythm of two people. You move your body, and the other person moves along with you. You say something, the other person smiles. You steal a glance at someone interesting, hoping to elicit a response. You say something and wait for a reply. You dress provocatively or use sensual makeup and see how she reacts. It’s a constant game of action and waiting, approximation and retreat. Be daring and then wait for the person to give you a signal.

If you get a positive message, don’t lose the chance to continue the dialog, to further your intentions. But, if things get difficult, threaten to escape. Have the last drink, begin to pay the bill, give a sign that you’re leaving. For a moment, remove your focus from the flirt and give the other person the opportunity to invest in you. This happens a lot: at the last minute, when the person realizes that you are leaving, she doesn’t want to lose you and gives the clue you were waiting for. Great, now you can begin to talk. But if after a few attempts the deal doesn’t flow, give up. It’s not worth investing a lot of energy. Maintain your dignity. 

Flirting is a dance of interests that requires flexibility and speed. You need to have the ability to adapt quickly to the rhythm of the other, without losing your own identity or self-confidence.

Developing an interest in someone requires developing the art of tuning in to what the other person is doing, feeling and thinking. If you are worried about whether you are behaving correctly or not, if you are overly focused on yourself, you are losing the opportunity to better understand the other person. You will use nearly all of your energy on yourself! If you are the type of person who always thinks that you are good for nothing, and highly self-critical, break this attitude.
A tip for those who want be good at flirting is to dance. That’s right, literally dance. When dancing, your body becomes flexible. You tune in with the music and its message. The creative interplay of dancing is a fundamental characteristic of flirting.