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For many decades women have been reflecting about their new identity and their part in society. There are lots of opportunities for them to get together and chat about these and other subjects. In congresses, books, other publications, in practically all the media, it is normal to hear discussions about women´s liberation and the perspectives of their new world.

As a result, women have grown prettier, sexier, more intelligent, daring, responsible and surprising. But what about men? What has happened to us during all this time? Is there an international male day, by the way?!

What we know is that, traditionally, the male community don´t like discussing relationships or talking about serious topics. Part of this is due to the lack of interest. For them (us) there is no point in talking about our ‘macho’ points of view. On the other hand, we don´t have ability enough to comprehend our feelings and express them clearly. The problem is: it isn´t longer possible to stay away from some dialogues that easily.

Male values are slowly but surely going down the drain and nowadays the man who tries to publicly defend his point of view can easily become a reason for laughing at. But we are aware that, on a daily basis, many men still believe that women were born to serve them. Those are silly people that usually don´t know what it is to say the truth, to compromise or to communicate clearly and effectively.

This problem will keep happening if parents don´t change their ways of educating their children. Boys who are raised as if women should do everything for them, grow old as men who think they are superior to women. Without the presence of machismo, what we see are weak creatures, with no attitude and afraid when in contact to women. A man without identity. But why does that happen?

In the old times, when production was manufactured, it was normal for boys growing up in the presence of a father, uncle or grandfather, learning how to live life and earn some money. While they worked, they would also talk, and that was when the values were transmitted from father to son. The problem is that that culture no longer applies. Most men started working away from home and women had full responsibility on the education of their children.

There is a lack of male models. Boys grow up without having someone to inspire and help them understand their world. They don´t learn how to be a good man, nor liking being a man. In some distant cultures, when boys turn 14 they go through an initiation ritual and learn from the eldest how to be strong and respectful at the same time. In our contemporary culture there is nothing like it. For girls, their menstrual period works as a natural passage to adulthood. Besides, women have united to occupy a better place in society. For boys, well, this passage to adult life isn´t very clear, nor evident.

Fortunately we started to observe a new male figure. They are boys who comprehended that men and women must share a similar relationship. They are men who understood their power comes from their virtues: discipline, integrity, solidarity. They have learned they got to be generous and support each other.

This new man has already learned he can cry, talk about it and show his feelings without guilt. That is the man humanity needs: powerful but sensible. That is the man women dream about and hope to find.